I have no idea what to write about, but I can feel the words and the tears welling up in my mind and my heart. I do not know where these things, the words, so often accompanied by tears of joy and sadness, come from.
I turned 44 yesterday. Birthdays are not something I have particularly enjoyed since I was about 16. That was a very bad year for me. That was the year I claimed PTSD as my own. Later, undiagnosed Bipolar disorder would emerge like a caterpillar becoming a twisted version of a butterfly. I lost myself that year, and the few years following are fuzzy with drugs and alcohol as I attempted to blot out feeling. I never did succeed in blotting out feeling. All I felt was anger; rage at a world that could allow this to happen to a child. I still rage at the world that allows children to become a victim first, and then, slowly, a survivor, if that is what you want to call it.
I finally have a date for my disability hearing. Two weeks after my birthday, one year after the medical review of my disability began, seven months after the “official” declaration of my medical improvement. I do not feel new and improved. I still feel like my life has been steamrolled like newly poured asphalt. It is just in Technicolor these days due to medication designed to make me stable and mad all at the same time. I do not think these bureaucrats have any idea what it is like to be up and down at the same time. That’s the stability I have achieved; I am manic and depressed at the same time. Does that mean that my symptoms are “managed” or does it represent the only balance I am going to find?
As I sit here and listen to my Soundgarden Pandora station that plays everything I like from blues to what is now playing (The Red Hot Chili Peppers), I contemplate everything I have not accomplished with my life. Everything had seemed promising a few years ago, weird as my life is, but promising nonetheless. Now, I find myself wondering how to pay the rent next month. I find myself going up against new college graduates trying to find a job. The only thing I have on them is a few years experience. They have MBA’s, degrees in Accounting, Economics, Engineering. I have a degree in Sociology and Psychology. Interesting subjects but just not all that useful when one has worked in financial services for the past ten or so years.
I have hit that strange place where I am so stressed out that I have achieved a sense of unshakable calm. It is not a pleasant calm. It is an acceptance of the inevitable. I just do not think I am going to be terribly convincing as a severely depressed Bipolar. I hide my illnesses from myself and others so that I may live a semblance of a normal life.This “skill” is not going to serve me well with a committee designed to find the flaws in my argument.
My heart is heavy and weary, and I feel a powerful need to cry. However, the tears refuse to come to my eyes and overflow down my cheeks. So, I remain stoic overflowing with feelings I cannot name, but like a teacup with a crack, they will come out as a trickle at first, and a flood next when the teacup breaks under too much pressure.